The biggest temptation in life is to settle for too littleThomas Merton

Are you moving through life without a clear direction? Are you letting events and other people’s needs take priority over what you want to do?  Do you have a plan, or are your days being filled with ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’?

Is Life Passing You By?

Twelve months ago, I found myself complaining that ‘life seemed to be passing me by!’  I was bored, frustrated and totally unfulfilled!  I’d had a health scare which had been a big wake-up call and suddenly I was looking at life differently.

I would wake up in the morning and my calendar would be fill.  It was filled with:  picking kids up from school, banking, shopping, doing this and doing that… but none of it was my plan.  My husband would tell me to ‘take the day off and do something just for me!’  But, that was my biggest problem!  I had spent so long working and doing for others, helping, solving problems and ‘just being there’ for everyone else, I had forgotten what I enjoyed doing!   Can you relate to that?

Plan for Your Life

As a coach I knew that your best chance of having the life that you want is to know precisely where you are going. This applies to every area of your life: your health, finances, social life and anything else that is important to you.  Some of us plan this intuitively but very few of us sit down and really plan it and have a clear idea of exactly where we want to go.

Most of us will spend more time on planning a holiday than we will on planning our lives and where we want to be in 5 years’ time.    We may have paying our home off planned, but that is called mortgage repayments!   We may have our Superannuation planned, but that is compulsory planning via the Government program!  I know many small business owners who have never contributed on their own behalf into their Superannuation.  There are other areas like career, education, having children, where most of us don’t plan what we want and where we want to be at different times in our lives, we just keep hoping that over time we will ‘get a lucky break’ and things will be ‘sweet!’

When we do not spend time on planning our lives we are like a yacht without a rudder, we have little control, and we pretty much must go where the wind blows.  We are at the mercy of the elements, other people, circumstances etc. Goals Dream & Achieve

Do You Know What You Want?

Many people are doing things they have to do in their lives because they have no choice, they live lives of quiet desperation. They know what they don’t want but have no clue what they do want.   This is where I was.

Deep down, we know what we would love to do, but often we can’t see a way that its possible, so we push the thought into the background, trying to hide the idea even from ourselves.   We disregard our most inspiring dreams and goals and settle for whatever seems reasonable or whatever comes our way.

This is the position I found myself in 12 months ago.  My lack of planning was in the ‘spiritual’ area of my life!   What makes my heart sing?

When you are doing what you love and have a plan of how you are going to do it, you never need motivation or inspiration.  You can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning and you live a life of purpose.

To get myself back on track, I sat down and asked myself the following questions?  I encourage you to do the same, in each of the 7 areas of your life – Spiritual, Career, Finances, Social, Health, Family, Vocation –  take some time by yourself to ask yourself the following:

  1. What do you want?
  2. Why do you want it?

Notice I have not said ‘how you are going to get it’  Once you are crystal clear on what you want and why you want it,  the how’s will appear.  The ‘how’ is the easy part!

It took me a couple of months to figure what I really wanted to be doing… but now on I am on track!  Here’s a little clue to where to start looking….. ‘When I was a teenager, I wanted to travel and show people the world – most of my life I have been a ‘coach’  …. Now, I am running Life Change Retreats and Journeys’  I have combined my two passions into my dream job!  It is what I was born to do!

Sri Lanka lies in the Indian Ocean a short flight from India.  The main export is tea.  But Sri Lanka is more than just tea.  Sri Lanka is Bali 50 years ago…. But with far more archaeological importance than you could ever imagine!

UNESCO Heritage Sites

Sri Lanka is home to eight UNESCO World Heritage sites and it houses more archaeological wonders than most tourists ever expect.  It is a small country where both Hinduism and Islam have both had a huge influence.  There are mosques and temple complexes found everywhere throughout the country, however it is Buddhism that really underpins the Sri Lankan Culture.


No journey to Sri Lanka would be complete without a trip to the 1600 year old Sigiriya Citadel Rock, a 200 metres high mountain of rock standing large and tall over the plains of Dambulla.  The summit can be reached by visitors by climbing 1200 steep, well-worn steps and twisting ladders to the first plateau where we catch our first real ‘breath-taking’ view of the surrounding countryside.  It is amazing.  Those with some strength left, it is up another 200 steps or so to the summit and the ancient citadel and elaborate Buddhist city of Alakamanda,  and home of a former royal palace, dating back to the 10th Century.  There are only ruins remaining but use your imagination to picture the magnificent structure, some 7 stories high, housing some 1000 chambers and inhabited by the Kings family, servants and palace aides.

Simple Sri Lanka

The climb to the summit is not for the fainthearted but it is worth every ‘out of breathe’ step.  You pass murals and frescoes of nymphs and Buddha statues of Gal Vihara and the ancient relic shrine of Hatadage.  #One wall is so highly polished, yes even after all these centuries, that it still reflects sunlight to light up a frescoes you would otherwise not see.

The trip down Sigiriya is quicker but the views and artifacts you pass by are just as fascinating.


Sri Lanka is a tropical Island with two main climate zones.  There is a wet zone, covering the south-east quarter and a dry zone covering the rest of the country.  The island contains no natural lakes except a few small flood plain lakes but has hundred of man made reservoirs.  The earliest of these built over 2500 years ago, the more recent… 800 years ago.  How forward thinking were the Sri Lankan people.  They still today have no issues with water.  The irrigation canals and drains to move water from the mountains to the plains pre-date Christ and most were built in 6 to 3 BC!   Just imagine that…. Triangular drainage canals, that still work to this day, built BC.

During  the period 1984 to 1986 three lakes were built, mainly for hydroelectric purposes.  These were Lakes Kotmalé, Victoria and Randenigala and were built by impounding the River Mahaweli and were deliberately constructed at different elevations.  The water is collected and then moved to where it is needed for farming purposes (and to generate electricity) via drainage canals similar to those constructed centuries earlier.    It is amazing system and the Gardens below Sigiriya shows them canals and drainage systems in operation.


The people are friendly and welcoming.  The food delightful, nothing like Indian which was a surprise.   You will see kids playing cricket everywhere, fishermen on poles and bargaining in the markets.  It is vibrant, colorful and your senses will be overpowered by the smells and sights.  It is delightful!  Amazingly, not too crowded, which was a surprise.

When people told me that Sri Lanka was how Bali was, before tourists, I was skeptical… but they are right.  You move back in time in a good way, when you visit Sri Lanka.

No matter where you go in Sri Lanka you will constantly be reminded, there is way more than ‘tea’  to see here.

Is Bali the World’s Bogan Capital?

There is an unfortunate joke around the world, that when you arrive in Bali it is okay to lower your normal standards, act inappropriately, in fact, just join ‘everyone’ else and become a bogan!  What is a bogan, I hear you ask…  Well acting like a bogan is being ‘unsophisticated, acting as having low social status, or being offensive’ in public or to those around you.

It is a stereotype that Australians seem to be labelled with, but is it justified?

I have travelled to many countries and different places seem to attract ‘labels’ for nationalities.  I am not sure why! However, although in some places of Bali, like Kuta, there is a ‘party’ atmostphere;  in other areas a ‘surf and beach’ culture, overall I find Bali and the typical tourist similar to any island beach resort.   Yes, of course, there are those who drink to much and leave their manners at home!  Then there are those who are still living in the 70’s and look like they have lost touch with reality.. but they are fun to talk and listen to.  There are tourists who are rude and dis-respectful.  But we all have these people in the towns and cities where we live.

Here are some hints and tips on how to create a new and positive stereotype for Tourists in Bali!

Explore More.

Your Vibe attracts like minded people.  One of the best ways to really enjoy Balinese Culture and your trip is to avoid the tourist traps of Kuta, Legian, Seminyak and Canggu and get out and see the real Bali.    North and West Bali have sensational sights to see, its almost a different culture. Climb the Volcano at dawn; visit a temple; eat some street food, and of course, sample the local beer.  Remember to try the boutique beers flavored with local fruits, herbs, spices and vegetables.  There’s lots to do, eat and taste!

Travel Responsibly

Be conscious of what you are “leaving behind”.   Take a reusable water bottle with you.  Don’t drop your litter or plastic bottles ‘anywhere’ but a rubbish bin.  Volunteer to help anywhere you see an opportunity.   Life Change Retreats has a “Pack with a Purpose” motto and we pack and donate school supplies to local schools near the resorts we stay in.  You can do the same.  Every kid like new pencils, books etc…. they don’t take up much space.  Pack a few things to give away while you travel around.

Dress Appropriately

The Balinese dress more conservatively than we do, so dress like you are on holiday, but think ‘culture’ before you step outside… looking half-dressed to the local people.   If you are on a motorbike (you shouldn’t be – your travel  insurance doesn’t cover you unless you have a licence) realise that your sarong will blow in the wind and you will be exposed to sun and people.  Also, be aware of the sun, use protection – a hat or sunblock.  Keep your shirt on everywhere except on the beach.  Respect the culture!

If You Ride a Scooter…

Be careful and aware.  Know that Australian Travel Insurance does not Cover you unless you have a current Australian Motorcycle Licence (Check your policy) Wear a Helmet.  Avoid getting burnt by the Sun or the exhaust when stepping off the bike.  Don’t be tempted to drink and ride or do dumb stuff you wouldn’t do at home.  Always, put your gear under the seat, so you do not suffer a ‘drive by’ robbery.    When you are riding around,  remember, road rage has no place anywhere.  It will be frustrating, remember you are on holiday… you have plenty of time.

Have fun!

Bali is a fantastic place to visit, to explore and to let your hair down.  Don’t have fun at the expense of others.  Be respectful.  You will enjoy your memories for years to come more comfortably if you are not secretly ashamed of any of your actions.    Let’s become the new generation of tourists in Bali…

Take a moment to read a little about David Coates (Suntara) playing at the Pyramids of Chi, Ubud Bali.  This is one of the amazing excursions we have planned for your Retreat.  We are booked in already but, knowing David is running workshops and playing at the Pyramids we are now working to arrange to be there to partake in his performance.   Check it out here.

Voice Liberation with Daniel Coates “Suntara”

Pyramids of Chi, Bali
THIS SATURDAY, join us at the Sun Pyramid for a life altering workshop with Daniel, VOICE LIBERATION.

Are you scared to use your voice for singing or just for speaking up in life?

In this workshop, we dive deep to clear the blocks that are stopping you from using your voice to it’s full potential.

Daniel Coates (Suntara) holds a safe and lighthearted space for you to express your voice. We will use vocal toning and a series of fun and exhilarating processes to expand and open your voice. You will be pleasantly surprised at the sound that will be coming through you by the end of the workshop.

In this exciting one-day workshop you will:

– Learn the secrets to freeing your voice that no singing teacher will every tell you.

– Improve your voice dramatically without years of practice using a simple technique that you can do anywhere.

– Move forward with your life by clearing obstacles using sound.

– Discover how to use your voice to heal yourself and others.…/voice-liberation…/var/ri-2.l-L1/

Click on the link to see Suntara chanting at Angkor Wat

Daniel Coates (Suntara) is passionate about helping others free their authentic voice. In 2006 Daniel experienced a profound and life changing healing with an Opera Singing Shaman in Oxford, England which showed him the power of sound for healing and gave him the keys to unlock vocal freedom. Since then Daniel has been working with his voice and sound constantly discovering new ways to use the voice including channeling sound, tuvan/tibetan throat singing, ethereal chanting and singing for healing.


“Brilliant! I would highly recommend a session with this amazing healer” – Trish Rock, Healer, Canberra, Australia

“Daniel helped shift the shackles of things that had stopped me doing what I needed to do to be content and fulfilled in my life here and now. I can never repay him for that. If you are thinking of seeing Daniel just do it!” – Allison Morris, Hypnotherapist, Sydney Australia

“Daniel channels the love of the Divine through his beautiful sound healing. Transformational and much needed work for our people & our earth. Thank you Daniel, for listening to your hearts calling….” – Prem Williams – Sacred Earth Music

“This evening was life altering for me. Little did I realize walking into it that in the most natural and nurturing way, I would be addressing the root of my insecurities of expression & childhood blockages of worthiness and not feeling heard. I left empowered with a new found memory of my child-like, playful confidence.. and the practical tools to keep nurturing these shifts.” – Teagan Hillyard, Producer/Dj, Reno, Nevada

When you are feeling Stuck, bored, depressed or even feeling as it life is not worth living, it is time for you to change your life.  Routine is boring.  Habits keep us in our comfort zone. Variety is the spice of life… so if you are feeling stagnant, it is time to do something different!

1.Change your routine.

Your reality is created by the ‘routine’ of the things you do daily.  If you want your life to change you need to ‘shake it up a bit’. Change the Routine!Change Your Life

Add an activity or delegate a task you normally do.  Start going for a walk; join the gym; eat breakfast for dinner!  It doesn’t really matter what you do, so long as you break your boring habits.  Your Life can’t change unless you do something different!

2. Examine your Goals.

Do they align with your values?  Do you even know what your Values are?  If you align your goals with your values you will instantly change your life and your energy.

What are your passions, your interests, and your priorities?  What sort of legacy you want to leave behind.  This question applies not only to your career, but to your relationships, to your finances, your health principles.

How do you want to be remembered by your family, friends and associates?

3. Improve Your Relationships

Regardless of how much money you make or how great your successes are, if you have no one to share the experiences with, you will not fully enjoy the achievements.

Work on the relationships you already have.  Spend quality time with your loved ones.  Learn to compromise!  Admit you are wrong when you make mistakes. Nurture your relationships.  They are precious!  You will never realise how valuable, until you lose them.

Make new meaningful connections with others.  If you are feeling lonely, you must take matters into your own hands, get proactive.  Put yourself in social situations.  Attend meetings or functions.  Set a goal to make connect with one person at least per day, or at least per week.  Strike up conversations. Put a smile on your face and say hello, it is the best way to make a new friend!  A new friend will change your life.

4. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone!

Humans need variety to be happy.  You can’t have variety if you are stuck doing the ‘same old, same old’ routine every day.

Try to do something new every day!  Go to different shopping centre; talk to stranger; eat something new.  Use your non-dominant hand to clean your teeth.  Anything, to break the comfort of routine!!!

Start a new hobby or travel to a new place.  If you go to the gym, use different equipment!  If you run, take a different route and push yourself to run a little further each day.  Set a new goal.

Find ways to meet new people.  Join a club, go to the theatre, the ballet, the movies.   Anything that will create interest and variety in your life and breaks your routine, takes you out of your comfort zone will change your life.  It will, or may, bring up a bit of fear, just “Do it Anyway”  there is no point in living if you are not ‘alive’ while you are doing it!

Success verses Self-Sabotage

Being successful is something that we all strive to achieve.  Almost from birth, we are measured on how quickly we achieve the standard ‘benchmarks’ of development.  We start school and our success is marked on our report card and determined by academic achievement.  While our minds are focused on the pursuit of success, we are never really taught to deal with the potential obstacles that stand in between us and our goals. It’s strange, isn’t it?  On one hand, we are taught to focus our time chasing success. But, on the other hand, we do not always ask ourselves what it is that keeps us from ever accomplishing it.  As a result, we are confronted with the same issues repeatedly.

So, why does this happen?

These self-sabotaging habits of ours are locked into our sub-conscious mind and triggered off by the same or similar events happening.  What does this mean?Sabotage Success

Between conception and 7 years of age, we absorb everything that happens around, almost as a sponge soaks up water!  We have no filters and all of this is ‘stored’ as being ‘true for us’!  These thoughts form the basis of our attitude and identity and influences how we ‘expect’ life to play out.

You may have noticed that, mostly, we spend more time thinking and complaining about things that we feel dis-advantage us, or we think are bad, unfair or did not quite turn out as we expected them to.   Add to this, the news is constantly bombarding us with negatives. The old saying of ‘no news is good news’ started out as a reassuring comment to ‘not worry if you hear nothing from a person.’  But now it is an actual truth.  Good news is not ‘news worthy’.  Bad news is more interesting. Bad news, horrifying news engages people quicker and keeps them engaged while the drama unfolds.  For myself, I find that often my conversations veer towards the negatives of a situation. I also find that even a small negative can negate the positives of even an exciting experience.

One Lousy Hotel

Just recently I returned home from a trip to Sri Lanka with a group of people.  The trip was great, lots of great experiences and excursions, but the last hotel we stayed in was well below par.  While waiting for our flight home, it was this ‘lousy’ hotel that dominated the conversation for many of the group and, in doing so over-rode the memories of all the good fun and other good hotels that we stayed in.

Stinking Thinking

But our sabotages and, as I call it, ‘stinking thinking’ does not always concern negativity.  Often, our long-term habits prevent us from achieving our goals, cause us to procrastinate or simply give up on project.  This ‘stinking thinking’ is when the little voice in our head is saying things like ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘who do I think I am’, ‘I’m not smart enough’ and similar that undermines our confidence and self-esteem.   To change ‘stinking thinking’, you must first discover where it came from and what is the underlying cause.  Hypnosis is the quickest way to do this.

At Transformations Coaching and Hypnotherapy we work with clients every week to change the negative ‘stinking thinking’ habits that are sabotaging results for our clients.

Retreat – Workshops with Attitude

Now we have taken this a step further with the expansion of our business to include Life Change Retreats & Journeys.  The first of our Life Change Retreats – Transform You is being held in Ubud, Bali from 23rd to 29th March 2019.

Imagine:  7 days in spectacular Bali… 7 days to press pause and focus ‘just on you!’

We would love to have you join us …. So for more info: