Success verses Self-Sabotage

Being successful is something that we all strive to achieve.  Almost from birth, we are measured on how quickly we achieve the standard ‘benchmarks’ of development.  We start school and our success is marked on our report card and determined by academic achievement.  While our minds are focused on the pursuit of success, we are never really taught to deal with the potential obstacles that stand in between us and our goals. It’s strange, isn’t it?  On one hand, we are taught to focus our time chasing success. But, on the other hand, we do not always ask ourselves what it is that keeps us from ever accomplishing it.  As a result, we are confronted with the same issues repeatedly.

So, why does this happen?

These self-sabotaging habits of ours are locked into our sub-conscious mind and triggered off by the same or similar events happening.  What does this mean?Sabotage Success

Between conception and 7 years of age, we absorb everything that happens around, almost as a sponge soaks up water!  We have no filters and all of this is ‘stored’ as being ‘true for us’!  These thoughts form the basis of our attitude and identity and influences how we ‘expect’ life to play out.

You may have noticed that, mostly, we spend more time thinking and complaining about things that we feel dis-advantage us, or we think are bad, unfair or did not quite turn out as we expected them to.   Add to this, the news is constantly bombarding us with negatives. The old saying of ‘no news is good news’ started out as a reassuring comment to ‘not worry if you hear nothing from a person.’  But now it is an actual truth.  Good news is not ‘news worthy’.  Bad news is more interesting. Bad news, horrifying news engages people quicker and keeps them engaged while the drama unfolds.  For myself, I find that often my conversations veer towards the negatives of a situation. I also find that even a small negative can negate the positives of even an exciting experience.

One Lousy Hotel

Just recently I returned home from a trip to Sri Lanka with a group of people.  The trip was great, lots of great experiences and excursions, but the last hotel we stayed in was well below par.  While waiting for our flight home, it was this ‘lousy’ hotel that dominated the conversation for many of the group and, in doing so over-rode the memories of all the good fun and other good hotels that we stayed in.

Stinking Thinking

But our sabotages and, as I call it, ‘stinking thinking’ does not always concern negativity.  Often, our long-term habits prevent us from achieving our goals, cause us to procrastinate or simply give up on project.  This ‘stinking thinking’ is when the little voice in our head is saying things like ‘I’m not good enough’ ‘who do I think I am’, ‘I’m not smart enough’ and similar that undermines our confidence and self-esteem.   To change ‘stinking thinking’, you must first discover where it came from and what is the underlying cause.  Hypnosis is the quickest way to do this.

At Transformations Coaching and Hypnotherapy we work with clients every week to change the negative ‘stinking thinking’ habits that are sabotaging results for our clients.

Retreat – Workshops with Attitude

Now we have taken this a step further with the expansion of our business to include Life Change Retreats & Journeys.  The first of our Life Change Retreats – Transform You is being held in Ubud, Bali from 23rd to 29th March 2019.

Imagine:  7 days in spectacular Bali… 7 days to press pause and focus ‘just on you!’

We would love to have you join us …. So for more info:

We are taught to set our goals in line with the acronym: SMART. I have done this all my life. Achieve your Goals

However, sometimes, the ‘timely’ or the date you expect to achieve the goals, has had to be extended.
How long? Well, sometimes, like in my case,  way longer than you anticipate. Does that mean you fail? I don’t believe so!   It is simply a ‘timely’ adjustment!

In 2008, I set goals to run workshops and life changing retreats so I mapped it all out. I planned where and what I would deliver for my content. I had everything in place and the first ‘target date’ was February 2010.

Well, it didn’t happen!

I established Transformations Coaching and Hypnotherapy in 2008, and I certainly started running my Design Your Destiny workshops in 2010, but I did not follow my goals through and extend the workshops into retreats. Why? I think, life just got in the way and I had other priorities to start with, but then, if I am honest, I really forgot about my dream, my goals.

But, in the back of my mind, it ‘idea’ kept ‘popping’ up! I would read a magazine, see something on TV that rekindle my desire. I knew deep down, I would do it. The dream never died.

Has life ‘got in the way’ of your dreams and goals?

Goals Dream & AchieveHave you had to put an idea or goals, on the back burner for a while? Maybe, your life stage is such, that you need to focus on children, your career, your relationship. And that is OKAY. It does not mean, you will have to give up or will never achieve that dream or goals. It just means, its not your top value, right now!

If your Dream was conceived with passion and emotion, if you linked a strong desire to bring this into reality, it will happen. You can ignite that flame at any time.

My dream and goals of running Retreats has now become a Reality because I never gave up on my Dream!

Transform You – 4 Steps to Mastering Your Destiny
23rd to 29th March 2019.

Some might say it is 11 years late! But the timing is perfect for me! And I believe it maybe the right time for for you!

If you are looking to learn how to create a ‘different’ future for yourself then this retreat is where you will want to be.

7 days in the paradise that is Bali, to learn:
Where your self-sabotaging beliefs come from
How to identify sabotages and how to change them
How to ensure you achieve your goals
How to learn to Live on purpose

Check out all the information here, or phone +61 428 229 431 for more details.

If you want to Change Your Mind and Change Your Life, it’s time to
Transform You!